【篇一】禮貌結(jié)束尬聊的實(shí)用英語(yǔ)口語(yǔ)
01. “尷尬”是awkward還是embarrassing?
在面對(duì)面的交談中，我們時(shí)常會(huì)遇到這樣一種情形：自己有事要離開，而對(duì)方還在滔滔不絕地講話，這時(shí)候如何尷尬而不失禮貌地結(jié)束這段對(duì)話就成了一個(gè)棘手的問題。
還有些時(shí)候，對(duì)話本身就很尷尬，這時(shí)候就更需要巧妙地結(jié)束這場(chǎng)談話了。
Awkward和embarrassing都可以表示“尷尬”，那二者有什么區(qū)別呢?
Awkward有uncomfortable的意思，而embarrassing可以形容讓你臉紅的事情(when your face goes red)。
再比如，如果男士不小心走進(jìn)ladies’ room(女洗手間)，那就可以說(shuō)embarrassing。
很多人都害怕空氣突然安靜，你可以說(shuō)：
還有一些awkward topic，比如小孩從哪里來(lái)的問題。
另外，awkward還可以形容人，表示“笨拙的”。
02. Actions to end a conversation
有時(shí)無(wú)聲勝有聲，你可以用一些行為來(lái)結(jié)束對(duì)話。
你可以表現(xiàn)得很忙碌，比如look at your watch，move your body away或者look at your feet。很多方式都可以暗示對(duì)方你想要離開：
結(jié)束對(duì)話的時(shí)機(jī)也要選擇好，你可以wait for a lull。
03. Phrases to end a conversation
如果對(duì)方注意不到你的肢體語(yǔ)言的話，你就要用語(yǔ)言來(lái)表達(dá)你的心思了。
首先，你可以講一些關(guān)于future plans的話：
切記，如果對(duì)方跟你說(shuō)了這些帶有someday, sometime的話，你千萬(wàn)不要問：“when?”因?yàn)閷?duì)方只是想結(jié)束這次談話而不是要跟你約時(shí)間。
Well，anyway或anyways這三個(gè)副詞有結(jié)束對(duì)話的作用，你可以說(shuō)：
這兩種時(shí)態(tài)都可以。其中it was nice talking to you還可以用在談話完一段時(shí)間后。
更簡(jiǎn)潔地，你還可以說(shuō)：
但一定不要說(shuō)it is nice talking to you. 這句話會(huì)讓人以為你想繼續(xù)談話。
如果想更直接一點(diǎn)，你可以說(shuō)：
Get going意思是“出發(fā)，采取行動(dòng)”。
在這里，I’ve got to=I have to，意為：我必須得(做某事)。
或者說(shuō)I should probably get/be going也是可以的。
還有一種更委婉、更禮貌的說(shuō)法：
這句話仿佛在說(shuō)：“不是我想走，而是怕耽誤你時(shí)間�！�
用了以上種種方法以后，要是對(duì)方還不放過(guò)你，仍然blah, blah, blah…
你就可以用上一個(gè)終極辦法——nature calls.
什么叫自然召喚呢?其實(shí)是表達(dá)I need to go to the bathroom.(我想去廁所。)
為什么說(shuō)這個(gè)辦法是nuclear option呢?這就要回到我們今天講的“尷尬”話題了：Talking about the bathroom is very awkward.
【篇二】怎樣用英語(yǔ)口語(yǔ)表達(dá)尬聊
An awkward talk 尬聊
I had an awkward talk with my dad about my job last night.
昨晚我和我爸尬聊了下我的工作。
A weird talk that leaves someone speechless 尬聊
My boss talked about his boss with me this morning. It was a weird talk that left me speechless.
我老板今早和我講他老板的事情。真是挺尷尬的一次聊天。
Small talk 閑聊，寒暄
Mary introduced me to her parents, and we sat there making small talk for a while. Mary
把我介紹給了她爸媽，我們坐下來(lái)寒暄了一會(huì)。
Chit-chat 閑聊
We ran into each other at the pharmacy and had a little chit-chat.
我們?cè)谒幍昱龅搅�，就閑聊了一會(huì)。
Group Chat 群聊
Could you please show me how to start a Group Chat?
能教我下怎么樣發(fā)起群聊嗎?
【篇三】10個(gè)英語(yǔ)口語(yǔ)拯救尬聊的方法
1. Be genuinely interested in the person
對(duì)談話的人真正感興趣
Who is this person? What’s on his/her mind? What does he/she enjoy doing? What motivates him/her in life? These are the questions I have for every single person I meet. Since people form the core of my life purpose (to help others grow)， my genuine interest in people, from who they are to what they do, comes naturally.
這個(gè)人是誰(shuí)?他/她在想什么?他/她喜歡做什么?什么激勵(lì)著他/她的生活?我每遇見一個(gè)人，我都會(huì)想這樣的問題。由于人們形成了我生活目標(biāo)的核心(幫助他人成長(zhǎng))， 我對(duì)他人的興趣，從他們是誰(shuí)到他們做什么，就很自然地產(chǎn)生了。
Such genuine interest, not an artificial one, is essential to making a conversation fly. If you are not interested in the other person, then why speak to him/her to begin with? Move on to someone you really want to talk to. Life is too short to be spent doing things you don’t like.
這樣的興趣是發(fā)自內(nèi)心的，而不是虛假的， 這是讓談話出彩的必要條件。如果你對(duì)他人不敢興趣，為什么要和他/她說(shuō)話呢?去和你真正想談話的人說(shuō)話。生活苦短，不要把它浪費(fèi)在你不喜歡的事情上。
2. Focus on the positives
關(guān)注正能量
Which means rather than talk about past grievances, opt for a discussion of future goals. Rather than talk about the coffee that spilled on your table this morning, talk about that movie you are looking forward to watch later in the evening. It’s okay to talk about “negative” topics (read: topics that trigger negative emotions) once in a while, but only when you feel it is okay with the other party and when it has a specific purpose (e.g., to get to know the other person better or to bond with the person).
也就是說(shuō)與其談?wù)撨^(guò)去的悲傷，不如去討論未來(lái)的目標(biāo)。與其談?wù)摻裉煸绯繛⒃谀阕雷由系目Х龋蝗缯務(wù)撘幌峦砩夏阆肟吹碾娪�。偶爾談�(wù)撘幌隆柏?fù)面”話題(能產(chǎn)生負(fù)面情緒的話題)也是可以的， 但是當(dāng)你覺得對(duì)方也能接受并且有特定目的時(shí)(比如，更好地了解對(duì)方或和對(duì)方建立聯(lián)系)。
3. Converse, not debate (or argue)
交談而不是辯論(爭(zhēng)吵)
A conversation should be a platform where opinions are aired, not a battle ground to pit one’s stance against another. Be ready to chat, discuss, and trash out ideas, but do so amiably. There’s no need to have a conclusion or agreement point in every discussion; if a convergence has to be met with everything that is mooted, the conversation would be very draining. Allow for things to be left open-ended if a common point can’t be achieved.
談話應(yīng)該是交流觀點(diǎn)的平臺(tái)，而不是一對(duì)一的硝煙戰(zhàn)場(chǎng)。準(zhǔn)備交談、談?wù)摵颓謇硐敕�，態(tài)度要和藹。沒有必要每次討論都要下結(jié)論或達(dá)成一致。如果每次都談?dòng)袪?zhēng)議的內(nèi)容，那么談話會(huì)非常吃力。如果無(wú)法達(dá)到共識(shí)，可以讓事物處于開放狀態(tài)。
4. Respect
尊重
don’t impose, criticize, or judge. Respect other people’s point of view. Respect other people’s space—don’t encroach on the person’s privacy unless a common bond has been established. Respect other people’s personal choices—don’t criticize or judge. Everyone has his/her right to be him/herself, just as you have the right to be yourself.
不要強(qiáng)加、批評(píng)或評(píng)判。尊重他人的觀點(diǎn)，尊重他人的空間——不要侵犯他人的隱私除非建立了共同的聯(lián)系;尊重他人的個(gè)人選擇——不要批評(píng)或評(píng)判。每個(gè)人都有自己的權(quán)利成為他/她自己， 就像你有權(quán)利成為你自己一樣。
5. Put the person in his/her best light.
看別人的方面
Always look for ways to make the person look good. Give credit where credit is due. Recognize talent where you see it. Drop compliments where appropriate. Allow the person to shine in his/her own light.
總是去看別人好的一面。該贊美時(shí)就贊美�？吹讲拍芤R(shí)別出來(lái)。在適當(dāng)?shù)臅r(shí)候?qū)e人加以贊美。讓別人展出自己的一面。
6. Embrace differences while building on commonalities.
求同存異
Everyone is different. At the same time, there are always commonalities across people. For the differences, embrace them. They make all of us unique. Agree to disagree if there are clashes in ideas.As you talk to the other person, look for commonalities between you and him/her.
每個(gè)人都是不同的。在同一時(shí)刻，人們都有著共性。對(duì)不同之處，要加以擁抱。正是這些不同之處才讓我們每個(gè)人都獨(dú)一無(wú)二。如果想法有沖突，則求同存異。當(dāng)你和他人交談時(shí)，尋找你和他/她的共同之處。
Once you find a common link, build on it. Use that as a platform to spin off more discussions which will then reveal more about both of you. For the new commonalities that get unveiled, build on them further.
一旦你找到了共同的地方，在它上面建造你們的關(guān)系。把它作為一個(gè)平臺(tái)，進(jìn)行更多的討論，這樣你們都會(huì)更好地了解彼此。對(duì)于發(fā)現(xiàn)的新的共同之處，可以在這個(gè)基礎(chǔ)上進(jìn)一步交流。
7. Be true to yourself.
做真實(shí)的自己
Your best asset is your true personality. Don’t cover it up. It’ll be pretty boring if all you do is mime the other person’s words during a conversation; there wouldn’t be anything to discuss at all. Be ready to share your real thoughts and opinions (not in a combative manner of course—see #3). Be proud of what you stand for and be ready to let others know the real you.
你的資本是你真實(shí)的個(gè)性，不要把它掩蓋起來(lái)。如果你所做的就是在談話中模仿另一個(gè)人說(shuō)話那會(huì)非常單調(diào);根本就沒有什么可以談?wù)摰�。�?zhǔn)備好分享自己真實(shí)的想法和觀點(diǎn)(不要用好斗的方式——參見#3)。對(duì)自己的立場(chǎng)感到自豪，并讓別人認(rèn)識(shí)真正的你。
8. 50-50 sharing.
50-50分享
I always think that a great conversation should be made up of equal sharing by both parties. Sometimes it may be 40-60 or 60-40 depending on the circumstances, but by and large, both parties should have equal opportunities to share and contribute to the conversation.What this means is that you should be sensitive enough to pose questions to the other party if you have been talking for a while.
我總是在想，好的談話應(yīng)當(dāng)是由雙方共同分享組成的。根據(jù)環(huán)境，有時(shí)可能是40-60，有時(shí)可能是60-40，但是總的來(lái)說(shuō)，雙方應(yīng)該有平等的機(jī)遇來(lái)分享和參與談話。也就是說(shuō)你應(yīng)該足夠敏感，如果你已經(jīng)說(shuō)了一會(huì)兒了，應(yīng)該能夠?qū)?duì)方提出問題。
It also means that you should take the initiative to share more about yourself if the other party has been sharing for the most part. Just because the person doesn’t ask doesn’t mean you can’t share; sometimes people don’t pose questions because it is not in their natural self to do so.
這也意味著如果大部分的內(nèi)容是由對(duì)方分享的，那你應(yīng)該主動(dòng)分享自己的想法。別人不問不代表這你不能分享;有時(shí)人們不問問題是因?yàn)樗麄兲焐辉高@樣做。
9. Ask purposeful questions.
詢問有意義的問題
Questions elicit answers. The kind of questions you ask will steer the direction of the conversation. To have a meaningful conversation with the other person, ask meaningful questions. Choose questions like, “What drives you in life?”， “What are your goals for the next year?” and “What inspired you to make this change?” over “What did you do yesterday?” and “What are you going to do later?”.
問題會(huì)引出答案。你問的問題代表著談話的方向。要想和他人有有意義的談話，就得問有意義的問題�？梢赃x擇這樣的問題，如“在生活中什么事情激勵(lì)著你前行?”，”你明年的目標(biāo)是什么?”以及“什么讓你做出這樣的改變?”，而不是問“昨天你做了什么?”、“一會(huì)兒你要做什么?”
Some people may not be ready to take on conscious questions, and that’s fine. Start off with the simple, trivial, everyday questions as you build a rapport. Then, get to know the person better through deeper, more revealing questions—when you think the person is ready to share.
有些人可能不想回答意識(shí)層面的問題，沒關(guān)系。從簡(jiǎn)單、瑣碎的、日常的問題開始，逐步建立關(guān)系。然后，通過(guò)進(jìn)一步、更加揭露性的問題來(lái)更好地了解對(duì)方——當(dāng)你認(rèn)為對(duì)方已經(jīng)愿意分享時(shí)。
10. Give and take.
給予和接受
Sometimes people say pretty weird stuff during conversations. For example, a critical comment here and there, a distasteful remark, and a bad joke. Don’t judge them for those comments; treat these blurts as Freudian slips. Usually I just laugh or shrug it off; it makes for funny conversation banter.
有時(shí)人們?cè)谡勗挄r(shí)會(huì)說(shuō)一些很奇怪的內(nèi)容。例如，到處都有批評(píng)的評(píng)論、令人反感的話、糟糕的笑話。不要因?yàn)樗麄兊哪切┰u(píng)論而對(duì)他們加以評(píng)判;把這些脫口而出的話看成是弗洛伊德口誤。通常情況下我只是笑笑或聳聳肩;它也使得談話輕松有趣。
