i live in hollywood. you may think people in such a glamorous, fun-filled place are happier than others. if so, you have some mistaken ideas about the nature of happiness. many intelligent people still equate happiness with fun. the truth is that fun and happiness have little or nothing in common. fun is what we experience during an act. happiness is what we experience after an act. it is a deeper, more abiding emotion. 　　going to an amusement park or ball game, watching a movie or television, are fun activities that help us relax, temporarily forget our problems and maybe even laugh. but they do not bring happiness, because their positive effects end when the fun ends.i have often thought that if hollywood stars have a role to play, it is to teach us that happiness has nothing to do with fun. these rich, beautiful individuals have constant access to glamorous parties, fancy cars, expensive homes, everything that spells "happiness". 　　but in memoir after memoir, celebrities reveal the unhappiness hidden beneath all their fun: depression, alcoholism, drug addiction, broken marriages, troubled children, profound loneliness. the way people cling to the belief that a fun-filled, pain-free life equates happiness actually diminishes their chances of ever attaining real happiness. if fun and pleasure are equated with happiness, then pain must be equated with unhappiness. but, in fact, the opposite is true: more times than not, things that lead to happiness involve some pain. 　　as a result, many people avoid the very endeavors that are the source of true happiness. they fear the pain inevitably brought by such things as marriage, raising children, professional achievement, religious commitment, civic or charitable work, and self-improvement.

我住在好萊塢。你可能認(rèn)為住在這樣一個(gè)魅力四射、充滿歡笑的地方要比其他人更幸福。如果是這樣,你就誤解了幸福的本質(zhì)。許多聰明的人仍然視幸福為樂(lè)趣。事實(shí)是,樂(lè)趣和幸福很少或沒(méi)有共通點(diǎn)。有趣的是我們?cè)谝粋�(gè)行為期間經(jīng)歷的。幸福是我們?cè)谝粋�(gè)行為之后經(jīng)歷的。這是一種更深層、更持久的情感。 去游樂(lè)園或球賽,看電影或電視,有趣的活動(dòng)可以幫助我們放松,暫時(shí)忘記我們的問(wèn)題,甚至大笑。但是,這一切并不能帶來(lái)幸福,因?yàn)閵蕵?lè)結(jié)束結(jié)束,它們的正面效應(yīng)。我常常這樣想,如果好萊塢明星起到某種作用,它是教我們,幸福與快樂(lè)無(wú)關(guān)。個(gè)人,他們富有,楚楚動(dòng)人,不斷獲得迷人的聚會(huì),名車,豪宅,每件事物都在拼寫著“幸福”。 但在自傳回憶錄后,名流們揭示了隱藏在背后的不幸他們所有的樂(lè)趣:抑郁、酗酒,吸毒,婚姻破裂、陷入困境的孩子,深刻的孤獨(dú)。人們堅(jiān)持相信充滿樂(lè)趣、沒(méi)有痛苦的生活相當(dāng)于幸福實(shí)際上減少了他們獲得真正幸福的機(jī)會(huì)。如果娛樂(lè)和快樂(lè)等同于幸福的話,那么痛苦必然等同于不幸福。但事實(shí)上,情況恰恰相反:很多情況下,涉及到一些痛苦導(dǎo)致幸福的事情。 因此,許多人避免非常努力,真正的幸福的源泉。他們害怕疼痛不可避免地帶來(lái)的諸如婚姻,撫養(yǎng)孩子,職業(yè)成就,宗教信仰,公民或慈善工作,自我完善。